‘SARS’mentality!!

Hello Lovelies,

This is not the post we planned to have up today but it is the post today requires. We must lend our voice to what is important right now.

To say that I am tired is an understatement. I am tired, drained and exhausted by the things happening in Nigeria. On May 31st, a post titled Enough is Enough went up on the blog and it is sad to see that between May and now, we are still fighting. We are still fighting the authorities meant to protect us. We are still losing lives of important people. We are still in pain as a people. And to make matters worse, they are still killing the brave heroes that are going out to protest.

For the past two days, I have literally absolved the news everywhere and with every post, the reality of the situation saddens my heart. But we cannot stop and won’t stop. We will fight each problem brave, strong and together as a people. Eventually, the people are bound to win.

I cannot comprehend why the government would stand and watch as robbers and murderers wear the noble policing uniforms. I cannot comprehend why the protest has gone on for this long without the government doing something proactive. I am yet to phantom what exactly they are discussing behind close doors. I am even more confused on who is actually the President of Nigeria and what the job of a President is because right now I am weak. Can there be a President without the people?

I hope we know that this fight has to go beyond these protests. The next elections, we need to be very intentional about our votes. In the last election, I kept on asking why everyone was acting like it was only two people that were contesting. Well newsflash!! The next election please endeavour to vote with common sense. Apparently, it is too much to expect that these older men would care about the next generation.

If you let me, I would ramble on forever because there are too many things wrong. But for now, we focus on Ending SARS and a complete detoxification of the Nigeria Police Force. That is what we stand for. This ‘SARS’mentality has to end! The end is now!

I am tired!

#ENDSARS!!!

#ENDPOLICEBRUTALITY!!!

#ENOUGHISENOUGH!!

THE YOUTH ARE SUPPOSEDLY THE FUTURE OF TOMORROW.

You are living your life, give us the opportunity to live ours!

Queen N.

TAKING AN L!!

I am not even going to lie, failing sucks! Like in a major way, especially when you fail at something you were so prepared for; when you fail at something you have waited for; when you fail at something you have thought through. It hurts more when you fail at something you committed into God’s hands and you knew He gave you the go ahead. What does one do then? When you are so mad at God and you can’t even explain it? What happens when God becomes the last person you want to hear about because ‘He is supposedly the cause of the failure’. That feeling sucks and I know this because I have been there. I have felt it. I have thought the thoughts and I have disliked God in a very big way because He wasn’t there when He should have been. He was acting like He had favourites.

Let’s take this scene to the last class of senior secondary school where we are meant to sit for the West African Senior School Certificate Examination. I had done my part, I had read and when I say read, I mean read! I prayed, I committed all into the Lord’s hands, I was pretty confident in myself (not overconfident but confident enough). To top it up, the questions were pretty fair, and I was expecting my perfect looking result slip with 9 A1’s (yes, I don’t settle). Well, result day came, there was a C, a lot of B’s and 2 A’s (sigh). What sort of rubbish, am I right? I didn’t even know how to react; I just went to my room and balled my eyes out and very well blaming God. He saw how hard I worked, He saw everything and yet He didn’t crown my efforts with good success. I felt so bad.

What then do we do when we fail or when we lose, and it looks like everything is lining up against you? Back then, I didn’t know how to react. I only felt a lot of anger.

Recently, I received another heart-breaking result. Oh, and this one is way way more important than WASSCE. I failed. When I saw the result, again, I didn’t know how to react. I didn’t cry. It was like my body prevented me from crying. I wasn’t processing it. I read, I prayed, I spoke out in faith, I believed, I trusted, I knew God was with me through it all and somehow,  someway, it was like He fell my hand yet again. I wanted to blame Him, I wanted to be angry with Him, but I couldn’t. I am glad I couldn’t. I am grateful I couldn’t because I know that if I have God, He is working out everything for my good. He is working out everything for your good.

What happened between WASSCE and now? Why couldn’t I blame God? There is this grace of being able to take an L and still praise God. This comes from seeking out the Lord, seeking His face, dwelling in His presence, and just knowing. I pray that this grace dwells in each and every one of us, it makes things easier honestly. This is not to say I am perfect, or I have it all figured out (that would be a major lie). But as Pastor Michael Todd of Transformation Nation would say ‘Progression over Perfection.’

Taking an L, taking your loss, taking our losses can be a very difficult task, especially when the L isn’t an exam lol, but take the L. Take the L because He is working through it for us. It can be difficult, it can seem impossible, but I pray that whatever failure or loss it is, that God will help you process it. I pray that the Holy Spirit will help you heal and that you will be prepared for what is coming because God specialises in exceeding our expectations.

Oh, and guess what? I am so excited to see what He is about to do in my life. I have a feeling my mind is about to be blown like never before. I have a feeling He is about to bless me so much that my head will be turnioniown.

Till then, lean in! God is forever good. Amen!

P.s: There is this amazing movie called High Calling by Mount Zion I found on YouTube and it literally drives home the message. God always has a plan!

AFOMA

Nigeria at 60!

Nigeria, a land flowing with milk and honey. Is it? Some people are already set to behead me for this very statement. Be calming down lol.

Before we say happy birthday, 4 years ago, our first blog post was Nigeria at 56 (feel free to go back and read) and look where we are, God is a very sure G!

Happy birthday to Nigeria! Omg, it’s been 60 years. 60 years of green and white, 60 years of fertile soil, dignity, and strength (at least , so says the coat of arms), 60 years of a whole lot! And the question is what do we have to show for it?

A lot of people will be writing about October 1st and what it means for us as a people, as a nation. Some people will be writing on the way forward, some will be reminiscing, some people will be out right cursing and I think they will be well within logic to.

I am not here to drag anybody’s government (at least not today). Instead, I want to write on the Nigeria we love; the Nigeria that has made us smile one way or the other; the Nigeria that is resilient; the Nigeria that is not plagued with natural disasters; the Nigeria that has God; this Nigeria and the Nigerians. I want to talk about the Nigeria that contained Ebola virus well that year, the Nigeria that has blessed you and I with mad music in a very interesting year.

I want to talk about this Nigeria. 

Nigeria, over the years, might have ‘fallen our hands’ one way or the other but common guys, it’s her birthday and our birthday so let’s drop a few good words of encouragement for her.

I love my country and I love the people. I love the food (is it pounded yam and banga soup eiisshhh or gbegiri?). At least after a very tough day, there is very good food (that is a very big plus). We are a funny set of people!! Well, we can make light of any situation and laugh at it. Twitter says it all lol. We dey pray fire sha! (Let’s leave those ‘religious’ ones first, not today). We know how to hold our own and at the end of the day, we know who owns it all, na Baba God o. Na only Him know which way.  Oh, and what a resilient set of people we are! Laziness isn’t in our dictionary, we want something, we work for it (and again, not today for those who sit on their hands waiting for gold to fall in their laps, wehdone ma, wehdone sir, the gold is on its way o!) I admire the resilience, the strength of the women and men that come out every day, come rain or shine, to make some money.

Oh wow! Nigeria, take tiri gbosa jarey, you try. It’s Nigeria’s birthday today. Do something good for the celebrant today or tomorrow or during the course of the week, whatever. Don’t throw the gala nylon on the floor, there’s a dustbin somewhere if you look for it. Be patient, everybody is angry o, try to be the patient one, it costs you nothing. Smile; find something to smile about, no matter how little. There are a lot of people living in poverty, help someone within your means today. Don’t be rude, that woman selling bole is a human being and very worthy of respect. PRAY for our country. It is ours. We are Nigerians. Seek out the Lord’s face over Nigeria, let His hand move over and for us (for those who know, we know that this is a big deal). Please don’t sit and curse out the celebrant and the inhabitants, it doesn’t help.

It is well.

Happy 60th, owanbe ati asoebi nko ?

AFOMA

LIMITING YOURSELF!!

Hello Lovelies,

How have you all been? I hope it has been a splendid week thus far. So, something interesting happened during my week and I thought to tell you guys because it got me thinking in a way.

Over the week, I wanted to do something with my friends. We were all sufficiently tired, but I was convinced that if we did not do it that day, the situation may get worse. Hence, I knew I was going to have to give them a little ‘motivation’. I called the first person and as expected ‘motivation’ was required and I asked, ‘What do you want?’ She replied, ‘Chips and Chicken’ from her favourite place close to her house. Oh, I was happy. It was well within my ‘motivation’ budget. I called the second person and it was the same process. I asked, ‘What do you want?’ He said he wanted pizza. Now, pizza was three times the amount of chips and chicken.

Little disclosure, I have recently become obsessed with budgeting. It is actually so beautiful to look at the sheet I created. So, every part of my money has been dissected.

 He asked for pizza, I reverted to my budget sheet and saw I could make that happen as well. It was not a problem. I agreed to his request. Walla! I got my friends together with the ‘right push’.

Now, after we were done with the agenda for the day, the second friend who asked for pizza left. The first friend attempted to remove my sweet head. Accusing me of ‘motivating’ her with chips and chicken while ‘Y’ got a whole large pizza with wings. In that moment, she forgot that she asked for it. I was very happy to remind her. ‘Babe, I asked you for what you wanted, and you said chips and chicken.’ She then replied saying that I did not give her options. I said neither did I give ‘Y’. It was simply a blank offer freely given to them both.

Whilst strolling home, I reflected on my day and it dawned on me that the incident was very similar to most of our walks with God. Most times, while praying we limit ourselves. God is available to make your biggest dreams come through, but we go before Him constantly with a limited template. Then, someone else who isn’t afraid of the big things goes before God and prays those might prayers. God moves mightily for the person and we come back to ask God why. The question should be ‘why not?’ Are you lacking anything you asked for?

The Bible is filled with many verses telling you to ask God for things. It is almost like God is reminding you to pester Him with your asking because He wants to do wonders in your life. The famous bible verse is Matthew 7:7-8

“Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.”

I do not know about you, but I think you need to start expanding your horizons. The truth is you won’t go to God with mighty prayers if you consider yourself to be so small. The first step is reminding yourself of who you are and allowing yourself to be open to the greatness that can be done with, through and for you. Your lens should not be yours but try to envision yourself the way God does. The Bible constantly tells you how God sees you. He calls you a masterpiece. You think a masterpiece is limited by small thoughts? I highly doubt that.

Remain blessed.

Queen N.

LESSONS FROM A RECENT LIFE EVENT!!

You can call this my little story time. I live in Dominica and we get 24/7 electricity once you have paid. It’s like a meter – it keeps reading and you top it up when it goes low. They will disconnect the light once the meter is at 0.

Now my story!! The meter was already reading negative, it was just like negative 1 so I didn’t think they will be quick to disconnect us. We were just dragging our feet and then boom, we got disconnected! I was like ah (this place has spoilt me, back home, if they take the electricity, you go and sleep and wait till ‘they’ decide to restore it). Now once the light was disconnected, there was no WiFi. Hence, our way of topping up the electricity was gone too (access to internet). Luckily for us, I had top up, so we went online and bought it.

That’s how we were waiting for them to restore it o, 10 mins, 15 mins, 20 mins, nothing! We had to get the head office’s number to call for them to restore the electricity. All these customer service numbers were using me to sing song, so I kept cutting and calling back. Then as if that wasn’t enough, my top up got exhausted! I felt like crying, no jokes.

Our neighbours didn’t have WiFi but they gave us their phone to make a call, the person we called couldn’t help us. So, we were just there, no top-up, no WiFi and sweaty!

Eventually, our landlord called us because the WiFi being out in our place was affecting our neighbours. We explained the situation and he helped us call the same customer care line, the light was restored, and we lived happily ever after! Lol

What lessons do we want to possibly learn from this? Four lessons actually:

  1. Always have top-up! How can in a house of 3, I am the only one that had top-up! How? Please always have top-up, whether you need it or not, you never know when it will come in useful
  2. Patience!! Oh, patience. I wasn’t so patient. I was irritated by the wait on the customer care line. If I was a little bit more patient, they would have eventually picked, and the light would have been restored sooner because it was the same number the landlord called.
  3. Forgiveness! The reason the electricity was disconnected in the first place was my friend’s fault and I was so pissed but being realistic, it wasn’t really her fault, but it was actually. Lol. I let go of the fact that it was her fault and we just worked together to get the electricity restored.
  4. Always keep your devices charged! I couldn’t read while we were waiting because my laptop was at 6%.

For patience and forgiveness, these are things I know, things I have learned. Why was it so difficult to practice? I think these things are easier said than done but we need to be more intentional about these two in any situation we find ourselves, so we don’t look back and start thinking ‘oh that could have been handled better..’

A lot of people do not know how to act under pressure. Some people tend to make matters worse rather than focus on ways to solve the situation. So, I went in search of some good resources that could help you with stress management and you would find the book attached below.

Also, there are actually laptop power banks. The thought never really occurred to me till this incident when I could not read with my laptop because I had taken constant power supply for granted. Depending on your activities and location, this might me an essential tool for you. I found one and attached the link below.

AFOMA.

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