DEAR WOMAN!

Hey you fearfully and wonderfully made lady. How are you? How have you been? I do not know if you are aware, but it is International Women’s Day, today. Happy International Women’s Day (which I am going to be referencing as IWD going forward lol).

Prior to writing this I did not know how this day came about, but thanks to google – the lineage of the celebration can be traced back to 1908, when 15,000 female workers marched in New York City as they sought more humane working hours, better pay and right to vote. And now it is celebrated worldwide and for you! (people have different takes on where it started, you can look it up!)

You have fought a lot of battles, yes? Right to vote, right to speak, you have a come a long way. Cheers to all the women that have gone ahead to pave the way and set the pace.

Today, being IWD, I want to write a letter to you. Let’s talk.

To the little girl, welcome! You have got to stand firm and be assertive, keep your head held high, refuse to be boxed in, and do not conform to stereotypes of any kind. If you would tap into the reserve in you, you would blow the minds of people. The sky is only the starting point. Rooms are waiting for your intellect.

To the young lady, you are enough! Your value is found in God not in anybody. Your worth is found in God and certainly not in what people think about you. In essence, you are solely validated by God. People are always going to have opinions about you, but what does God say about you? Use your youth to serve the Lord. Do not allow anyone pressure you into doing anything. Whatever that may be, premarital sex or pressure into marriage, you are on nobody’s clock. Tour the world, read books, expand your mind, grow businesses. Think outside the box. Carry out projects. Do the undoable and leave them awed!

To the older lady, married or unmarried, well done! You are doing a good job. You are validated. You are seen. You have so many young girls looking up to you, so thank you. We see you; we appreciate you.

To all the women in the world, doing big things in a small or big way, good job! You are seen. You are strong. You are able. You are enough. Do not let the world define you. Do not let your circumstances define you.

No one does it like you, ladies. Cheers to the married, the unmarried, the old, the young, the single, the housewife, the working class. Cheers to the monthly cycles, cheers to pregnancy and postpartum, cheers to the lady parts. But you are so much more than these. Do not live a life of competition with the same sex or the opposite sex. You are unique and you are here for a purpose, that only you can fulfill. God looked at the world and said the world needed one of YOU.

The theme for this year’s IWD is #choosetochallenge. Choose to challenge yourself, choose to challenge stereotypes, choose to challenge, and see change.

What does God think about you? Who is a woman after God’s heart? There are so many powerful women in the bible that we can study and emulate. The following are some verses from the bible about YOU:

“God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.”

“She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.”

“She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.”

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

“And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.”

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.”

“She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her.”

“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

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Dear woman, I appreciate you and I love you. You can accomplish so much especially with God with you.

AFOMA

20 THINGS I HAVE LEARNT IN 20 YEARS!!

  1. It could have only been God. If God had not been on our side, how would we have done it now?
  2. You don’t need a boyfriend, you need God!
  3. Listen to your parents when they tell you to lose weight so that you will not be counting calories up and down lmao
  4. Your sister is a treasure.
  5. Know this God o. He is sweet. In the presence of God, there is fullness of joy.
  6. Have Christ like friends. I am super grateful to God for my friends because God knows I need them
  7. There’s no point in complaining about things you can’t change, just see the good in every situation
  8. Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparison on every level you could think about it– spiritually, academically, physically. Gbogbo everything.
  9. Stop overthinking things! There is no need to overthink. As I am sitting down, I am probably getting ready to overthink something. It is God that helps me.
  10. Not every good thing is a God thing. Run everything by God.
  11. The Holy Spirit!!!!!! That’s all.
  12. Grow yourself. Grow yourself in the WORD. Prepare yourself for where you want to be in the future.
  13. You are beautiful.
  14. Don’t ever doubt God.
  15. You can’t help everybody, only God can
  16. Don’t jump to conclusions. Talk about how you feel. Sometimes, give benefit of doubt.
  17. Stop getting scared over everything, not everything requires an increase in heart rate.
  18. Sometimes just bite your tongue and ignore. And sometimes, talk, say your mind and don’t ever regret it. You have a right to be angry justifiably. Just do not sin in your anger.
  19. Learn how to swim. Oh God, learn how to swim!!!
  20. Chickens, dogs, cats are to be scared of you my dear, not the other way around. You have dominion. So, help me God o because rabies is real o. 😂😂

REMEMBER WHAT IS IMPORTANT!!

Hello guys!!!

Longest time!

Won’t it be easier if I always believe God has a plan? I mean won’t it be easier if I always remembered the words ‘even when I don’t see it, You are working’?

Reflecting on this past week, I was forcefully put into quarantine. Due to this whole COVID issue, there are very low risk countries, low risk countries, medium risk countries and high-risk countries. I stay in Dominica which is a very low risk country. There are some regulations guiding travel and I wouldn’t want to bore you with all that information lol. Just know, I made a trip to a very low risk country which wouldn’t have required quarantine on return to Dominica. However, on my way back, the aircraft had an issue and we had to spend the night in a high-risk country which changed everything. I was forcefully put into quarantine (forcefully because I had no intention of sleeping in a high-risk country), and I had to pay! It would have been a different thing if I was prepared for all these. You know, save up my money, pack necessary clothing items. But no, this is me at the airport, tired, ANGRY to the point of tears, no extra clothes, confused with some people saying ‘I am sorry, we know it is not your fault but you have to go into quarantine’. If I could roll my eyes into my head, I would have because I was just not having any of that.

Long story short, I was placed in self-isolation at my own expense o. My God was I pissed!

The point of this short story time? Here it is! Looking back, I am not angry anymore (I mean who stays angry for that long? lol). I dare say, I am grateful. Super grateful. This season was quite fruitful. I was forced to stop and spend some quality time with God. I am alone, my phone got boring, my laptop couldn’t keep me occupied for 24 hours. So, I read a book titled ‘Good Morning Holy Spirit’ by Benny Hinn. Let’s just say, I really really really really needed that. 

I also developed a healthy eating habit. I stopped thinking about food so much lol. I wasn’t cooking, I had to rely on someone bringing my food in the morning and afternoon. There’s nothing like extra. No unnecessary snacking, which was pretty good for me.

I needed the rest and the break (I watched a lot of YouTube videos) and the space. I also started drinking a lot of water (I was really struggling in this department). Now, I am leaving quarantine with fresh skin  😂😂😂😂

Won’t it have been easier to have just accepted from the get-go that God definitely had a plan in the midst of all of these? Or that He had my best interest at heart? But let’s be candid, it is not always easy to just stop and acknowledge that God got you (but He does) especially in some situations that are way more delicate than staying in quarantine for 7 days.

However, it is important that we slow down and commit the situation to God. I did, after a lot, I mean, a lot of grumbling and tears. But it always helps to remember. Remember what is important.

So yes, I was just thinking, won’t it be better for us to just say ‘I know God got me’ than to say, ‘looking back, I am grateful or I wish I had calmed down and really assessed the situation’? I don’t know. I just pray the Holy Spirit helps us to remember that God always has a grand plan for us, legit. No matter the situation, there is a benefit for God’s own children. Also remember, He never gives us more than what we can handle. Never!

Stay blessed!

Afoma

OYA SHAKE BODY!!

For more than a decade in my life, one saying I have heard severally is; man proposes; God disposes. Well, if like me, you live in Sub-Saharan Africa, the saying is probably not new to you. My folks in the abroad might find it hard to relate to such statements. Wait a minute. Talking about abroad, I and many other of my countrymen, can’t wait to jand. For the records, we are tired of praying for light and water. It is with deep pain that we see those men who have refused to pay the salaries of our parents, wear their babariga and cruise in luxury cars. They will chop money and chop money and once in a while, provide some comic relief. Sometimes, they dance, at other times, they are singers. They even go the extra mile at times, fainting and convulsing. Enough of the talk jare. My country-people (in high pitched Ibo) seem to have made a blood covenant with their oppressors.

In what seemed like man’s proposition, was our lofty agenda for 2020. Many great and brilliant ideas now lie in the bin. Never in my life have I had a 7-month break. No thanks to the pandemic. While we put pen to paper and stained those pages with ink, God was watching. He had his hand on His chin and smiled. Once or twice, maybe thrice or perhaps four times, I had to wonder if God is good. It was that bad. My broke ass had loads of nightmares and; whenever the day was bright, my soul was lorn. I was mad. It was unbelievable that the ‘good God’ could be aware of all these. Sundays came and; it was all “vexation of spirit”. Not again! I was tired of the whole show.

Unknown to me, the wind will blow, and my dim eyes will see. I will see tombstones in their numbers, the destitute and beggars. I will see the hungry and naked. I will see boys and girls, a lot better than myself, roaming the streets. Then will I realise; what a blessing it is, to be alive. How often, do we neglect the small things? The gift of a shelter; befitting or not. The grace of a meal on your table; miserable as it may taste. The blessedness of clothing; designer or nay. How about the gift of a family; funny as they may be. How do we even begin to count our blessings; a sane mind, eyes that can see, ears that can hear and bums that can poo. Above all, is the gift of hope – the assurance of better days to come. 

So, when next you receive a call from ingratitude, smile. Get yourself a garment and make room. Blare the music on volume 100 and keep the monster at bay. It’s been a tough year, no doubt but look inwards and find a reason to be grateful. You can go right, left, front, back, up, down and; repeat. It is time to shake your body! Gbe body e!

Adeyemo Victor

‘SARS’mentality!!

Hello Lovelies,

This is not the post we planned to have up today but it is the post today requires. We must lend our voice to what is important right now.

To say that I am tired is an understatement. I am tired, drained and exhausted by the things happening in Nigeria. On May 31st, a post titled Enough is Enough went up on the blog and it is sad to see that between May and now, we are still fighting. We are still fighting the authorities meant to protect us. We are still losing lives of important people. We are still in pain as a people. And to make matters worse, they are still killing the brave heroes that are going out to protest.

For the past two days, I have literally absolved the news everywhere and with every post, the reality of the situation saddens my heart. But we cannot stop and won’t stop. We will fight each problem brave, strong and together as a people. Eventually, the people are bound to win.

I cannot comprehend why the government would stand and watch as robbers and murderers wear the noble policing uniforms. I cannot comprehend why the protest has gone on for this long without the government doing something proactive. I am yet to phantom what exactly they are discussing behind close doors. I am even more confused on who is actually the President of Nigeria and what the job of a President is because right now I am weak. Can there be a President without the people?

I hope we know that this fight has to go beyond these protests. The next elections, we need to be very intentional about our votes. In the last election, I kept on asking why everyone was acting like it was only two people that were contesting. Well newsflash!! The next election please endeavour to vote with common sense. Apparently, it is too much to expect that these older men would care about the next generation.

If you let me, I would ramble on forever because there are too many things wrong. But for now, we focus on Ending SARS and a complete detoxification of the Nigeria Police Force. That is what we stand for. This ‘SARS’mentality has to end! The end is now!

I am tired!

#ENDSARS!!!

#ENDPOLICEBRUTALITY!!!

#ENOUGHISENOUGH!!

THE YOUTH ARE SUPPOSEDLY THE FUTURE OF TOMORROW.

You are living your life, give us the opportunity to live ours!

Queen N.