TUNE YOUR TASTE BUDS!!

I love vitamin C, do you? I mean most times I forget that it is a drug of some sort and consume it. Even at the point of writing this, I believe I should be able to lick as much as I want without my mum counting it out for me as prescribed. In my close to 25 years on earth I have never rejected vitamin C until recently. My mother purchased this suspicious looking vitamin C. I had never seen it before. It was white. I had tasted some white vitamin c in the past and I thought I could take on this suspicious looking thing. Upon my first taste, I quickly realised that I was allergic to bitterness. What??????!! It was the most bitter disgusting thing I had ever tasted and I immediately rejected it. Everybody in the house rejected it from children to adults. Mum kept it for sometime and kept trying different permutations and combinations to get us to take it and we just won’t bulge. This morning I saw the two containers in the bin where they rightly belong! What had happened? Our taste buds had be tuned to a particular taste of vitamin C and this criminal looking thing did not cut it!

We are in a time where there is an overwhelming amount of information out there. Sometimes, you end up confused. Sometimes, you ingest so much rubbish that you begin to doubt what you knew to be true. We are in an age that makes representing Jesus look weird. If you are not careful, you will end up hiding your Jesus. We are in a time when it looks like marriages cannot last. I started developing anxiety with social media because it seemed like most of the day I was coming in contact with bad news. Something was always going wrong. Then, I knew I had to tune my taste. I had to cleanse. I had to re-evaluate who I followed and who was following me. What were they bringing into my life and what was I portraying? It has taken some time but I think I have cleaned out my Instagram (which is like the only social media account I operate). I knew I had to hold on to what I knew to be true and let go of everything contrary. Everything that is not in agreement with what my life is in Christ, I spit out and send to the bin.

I think a point I have hammered on a lot since last year is the need to be careful of what we let into our space. Sooner or later, you will begin to reflect the things you feed yourself with. This year, be very intentional about what comes into your circle. I do not have a problem with being an open book but do not be open to everybody. It is not everybody that should have your ears. Faith comes by hearing, what are you hearing? It is not everything offered by the world that you take!

Tuning your taste buds requires discipline. When you are on a diet, you require discipline not to stray from it. Consider yourself on a clean diet and anything that pollutes your atmosphere should be eliminated. Be allergic to bitterness in any format it takes on and be discerning enough to avoid temptation. Most importantly, do not COMPROMISE on the things of God. We vehemently rejected the deadly vitamin C and we are better for it today. We know vitamin C ought to taste better and we will hold on to that. Hold on to Jesus! He is everything and more!!

Social Intelligence is a MUST!!

I was finally experiencing travelling via train for the first time in Nigeria. So far, I had been impressed. If I am being honest, they were more organised than I had anticipated. Everything was done on time. I was glad to see a system working properly.

I was seated in the train. I had settled in well, plugged my phone to charge and I had brought out a book to read. Just as I was about to digest the first line on the first page. A group of about 6 men decided to settle down in the seats in front of me. I mean what harm could a group of men do right? I decided to mind my business and continue the book I was reading. It was barely a second before I was forced to bless them with my gaze again and this time it was not pretty. They were the lousiest people I had ever met. And there was a particular one dressed in all black. He was the ring leader and he was sitting facing me so I had premium view of his drama. He spoke the loudest, laughed the loudest and sadly, licked his fingers the loudest. Everything they did was loud. I was irritated about the fact I could not peacefully read my book let alone nap. How was a trip supposed to be peaceful with this intrusion? I looked at the siren in black and he looked at me back, eyeball to eyeball. You would think the displeasure registered on my face would mean anything. Nope! He continued with his war cry. It was really a war cry because it took the Holy Spirit in me to prevent me from asking him a few questions. I was literally saying, “Holy Spirit activate!” Eventually, some of them slept off and the place quietened down. We had to wait for them to rest before we could rest.

Isn’t that the current state of this country? A small group of people sit on the affairs of the rest. They determine the tune we dance to. When they think we are at peace too much, they cause a spike in something. I imagine that they are puppeteers pulling the strings in whatever direction they wish. Anyway that is a focus of another write up. The focus point in this one is social intelligence.

How can one be so oblivious of his surroundings? One look around and he ought to have known that he was being loud. Everyone was looking at him, not just me. Even my baby sister was ready to throw some punches in his direction. She can be feisty like that…lol. Without everyone looking at him, the setting should have told him that this is not the place to be loud. Some of us are equally this oblivious. We do not know that there is a time and place for everything. We just act as we please wherever we please forgetting compassion. These are the set of people that champion the “this is how I am” cause. Rather than have them adjust, they expect you to deal with it. It is really unfair!

I really just want to call our attention to the need to be socially intelligent. You cannot have social intelligence if you are lacking in emotional intelligence to start with. Before you act, think! Ask yourself, is this the right time and place? Look around you, who will be inconvenienced by my intended actions? Can I minimalize impact? Must I do it now? Can’t I wait till I get to my house?! Yes, your house! Do not go about inconveniencing people. Everyone has something they are dealing with, do not add to it!

Thank you.

Stay blessed

TRAITS DO TELL!!

Here I was sitting beside my father. We were gathered to pray as a family which is our usual routine. However, as I sat down beside him all I could focus on was our feet. Yes, our feet! Odd right? I was mesmerised as to how similar our feet was. I kept glancing from toe to toe and my feet imitated every crook and line of my dad’s feet down to the slight bend in his big toe. After prayer, I could not help but point it out to my dad. He also checked it out and asked me “how can you resemble a man like this?” Lol! A very interesting question but he is my FATHER! And do you know what is more funny, I have my mother’s leg. So it is my mother’s leg on my father’s feet. Such a combination!

I have this thing of constantly playing with my fingers. I was a chronic nail biter at some point but we thank God for progress…lol. But I still play with my fingernails and sometimes, I end up injuring the side of my fingers. We went on a family trip recently and I had the pleasure of observing the whole family from the backseat. Before me was my mother focused on playing with her fingers. The thing was this was not the first time I was seeing her do it but this was the first time it dawned me that I did not just pick their looks but their little traits. I could be as intense as my dad or as chill as my mum. It all depends on the day you catch me.

What is the grand point of all of these? If we claim to be children of God, do we reflect His traits? God is love, not just any kind of love but unconditional, reckless, sacrificial love. Do we love? Do we love ourselves, our neighbours and even God? God is merciful. Do we extend mercy to others? I cannot help but think of that servant that had his debt forgiven but went to drag his mate that was owing him money. God is excellent in everything. Do we strive for excellence or we are forever on the mediocre lane chilling? God is patient. Are you a short fuse? I have come a long way in curtailing my temper. Being angry is even hard work.

The main point, by their fruits you shall know them. There are certain things I do and people say I am my father’s daughter and rightly so. What do you do that portrays God? By your fruits do people want to know God or flee from Him? Are you a saint in church and a beast on the streets? Do you claim to be available but you are not useful? Are you an empty beautiful vessel?

What do your traits tell?

DEAR WOMAN!

Hey you fearfully and wonderfully made lady. How are you? How have you been? I do not know if you are aware, but it is International Women’s Day, today. Happy International Women’s Day (which I am going to be referencing as IWD going forward lol).

Prior to writing this I did not know how this day came about, but thanks to google – the lineage of the celebration can be traced back to 1908, when 15,000 female workers marched in New York City as they sought more humane working hours, better pay and right to vote. And now it is celebrated worldwide and for you! (people have different takes on where it started, you can look it up!)

You have fought a lot of battles, yes? Right to vote, right to speak, you have a come a long way. Cheers to all the women that have gone ahead to pave the way and set the pace.

Today, being IWD, I want to write a letter to you. Let’s talk.

To the little girl, welcome! You have got to stand firm and be assertive, keep your head held high, refuse to be boxed in, and do not conform to stereotypes of any kind. If you would tap into the reserve in you, you would blow the minds of people. The sky is only the starting point. Rooms are waiting for your intellect.

To the young lady, you are enough! Your value is found in God not in anybody. Your worth is found in God and certainly not in what people think about you. In essence, you are solely validated by God. People are always going to have opinions about you, but what does God say about you? Use your youth to serve the Lord. Do not allow anyone pressure you into doing anything. Whatever that may be, premarital sex or pressure into marriage, you are on nobody’s clock. Tour the world, read books, expand your mind, grow businesses. Think outside the box. Carry out projects. Do the undoable and leave them awed!

To the older lady, married or unmarried, well done! You are doing a good job. You are validated. You are seen. You have so many young girls looking up to you, so thank you. We see you; we appreciate you.

To all the women in the world, doing big things in a small or big way, good job! You are seen. You are strong. You are able. You are enough. Do not let the world define you. Do not let your circumstances define you.

No one does it like you, ladies. Cheers to the married, the unmarried, the old, the young, the single, the housewife, the working class. Cheers to the monthly cycles, cheers to pregnancy and postpartum, cheers to the lady parts. But you are so much more than these. Do not live a life of competition with the same sex or the opposite sex. You are unique and you are here for a purpose, that only you can fulfill. God looked at the world and said the world needed one of YOU.

The theme for this year’s IWD is #choosetochallenge. Choose to challenge yourself, choose to challenge stereotypes, choose to challenge, and see change.

What does God think about you? Who is a woman after God’s heart? There are so many powerful women in the bible that we can study and emulate. The following are some verses from the bible about YOU:

“God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.”

“She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard. She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.”

“She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.”

“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

“And blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.”

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.”

“She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her.”

“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

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Dear woman, I appreciate you and I love you. You can accomplish so much especially with God with you.

AFOMA

20 THINGS I HAVE LEARNT IN 20 YEARS!!

  1. It could have only been God. If God had not been on our side, how would we have done it now?
  2. You don’t need a boyfriend, you need God!
  3. Listen to your parents when they tell you to lose weight so that you will not be counting calories up and down lmao
  4. Your sister is a treasure.
  5. Know this God o. He is sweet. In the presence of God, there is fullness of joy.
  6. Have Christ like friends. I am super grateful to God for my friends because God knows I need them
  7. There’s no point in complaining about things you can’t change, just see the good in every situation
  8. Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparison on every level you could think about it– spiritually, academically, physically. Gbogbo everything.
  9. Stop overthinking things! There is no need to overthink. As I am sitting down, I am probably getting ready to overthink something. It is God that helps me.
  10. Not every good thing is a God thing. Run everything by God.
  11. The Holy Spirit!!!!!! That’s all.
  12. Grow yourself. Grow yourself in the WORD. Prepare yourself for where you want to be in the future.
  13. You are beautiful.
  14. Don’t ever doubt God.
  15. You can’t help everybody, only God can
  16. Don’t jump to conclusions. Talk about how you feel. Sometimes, give benefit of doubt.
  17. Stop getting scared over everything, not everything requires an increase in heart rate.
  18. Sometimes just bite your tongue and ignore. And sometimes, talk, say your mind and don’t ever regret it. You have a right to be angry justifiably. Just do not sin in your anger.
  19. Learn how to swim. Oh God, learn how to swim!!!
  20. Chickens, dogs, cats are to be scared of you my dear, not the other way around. You have dominion. So, help me God o because rabies is real o. 😂😂